Poway Dedicates Torah Scroll to Lori Kaye

Several hundred people gathered Wednesday night at Chabad of Poway synagogue and Jewish community center in Poway, Calif., to dedicate a Torah scroll in memory of community member Lori Gilbert-Kaye and mark the holiday of Lag BaOmer.

The dedication took place nearly a month after a gunman entered the center on April 27, the last day of Passover, and began shooting during Shabbat-morning services. Kaye was killed and several others injured, including the congregation’s founding leader, Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein. It comes as the Kaye and Gilbert families prepare to mark the end of the shloshim, a 30-day mourning period, for Kaye.

“Everyone is doing as best as they can. It’s still very raw, very fresh,” said Goldstein. “People are still on edge, and we are doing as best as we can to help everyone move along.”

During the event, members of Chabad of Poway took turns writing a letter in the Torah scroll with the help of a scribe. There was also a tribute to the first responders who helped save people’s lives after the shooting.

The final letter in the scroll was written by Kaye’s husband, Howard, who said “on April 27, we had both a tragedy, and we had a miracle.”

The completed Torah was held high for all to see, and then rolled closed and covered with a velvet mantel, a traditional scroll cover, that read in part: “This Torah is dedicated in loving memory of Mrs. Lori Kaye, Leah Bat Reuven, who was taken from us ‘Al Kiddush Hashem’ Sanctifying G‑d’s Name ... We salute Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein, Chabad members and law enforcement for their bravery.”

Participants then paraded through the street carrying the finished Torah. Men, women and children danced and clapped to the music as the Torah, donated by the Jaffa Family Foundation, was dedicated.

The Torah mantle (Capture: fox5sandiego)

While Lag BaOmer may seem an unlikely time to have a Torah dedication in memory of a lost community member—for many people, the holiday is a particularly joyous day observed by bonfires, music, festive games and family fun—Rabbi Goldstein sees a parallel.

“The world celebrates Lag BaOmer because the Rashbi, Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, requested that the day he passed away be a day of joy and not a day of mourning,” said Goldstein, noting that Lori Kaye’s husband, Howard, “requested that her funeral not be a funeral of loss, but a celebration of life.”

Speaking to Chabad.org just before the start of the Torah dedication, the rabbi said, “My goal is to lift up the spirit of the congregation. The Torah is a symbol of perseverance, and if you look at the last word in the Torah it is Yisroel, which is my name, and the last letter is lamed for Leah, Lori’s Hebrew name. We will lift up the Torah and say ‘etz chaim hilamachzekim bah,’ this is the tree of life for all who seek it.

“That’s what this tragedy of losing Lori has been,” Goldstein continued. “It’s the birth to so much good and so much kindness.”

After the final letters in the scroll were written, Dr. Howard Kaye and Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein led a parade through the streets, carrying the finished Torah.

Men, women and children danced and clapped to the music during the dedication of the Torah, donated by the Jaffa Family Foundation.

Dr. Howard Kaye speaks at the memorial as Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein looks on.

Hundreds attended the ceremony in honor of Kaye.